Marital intimacy
Many people treat the topic of Sex as taboo, and even though we do we see it everywhere. We see it on TV, in the schools, in the store, we may even hear about it at church. Yet, we seem to have very little understanding of it's significance when it comes to the benefits and dangers of sex, and I will be talking about risks other than the health risks. I want you to for a minute think, how did I learn about sex? How old was I when I began to hear about it?
What are some common sex problems couples fight about?
Some have sex purely to procreate, some have sex to become closer with the person they love, others use it for purely recreational purposes. There are different stages in which the human organism is the most willing to have sexual realtions. Biologically speaking, males from the ages of 18-19 are more likely to be sexually active. As they get older their sexual desires begin to diminish. However, for women their sexual desires peak at the ages 30-35. This could be cause of some creative contention in the home. One of the common problems between young couples, is that men would always be in the mood and the woman may have a lot of stress that doesn't put her in the mood. This may lead the guy to think she doesn't want to be close to him and then the woman thinks he only keeps her around for sex. This problem, as common as it may be, could be solved if the couple is open with each other and feel comfortable having open conversations with each other.
During sex, each has a release of dopamine and guys have an excess release of serationin. Sertonon will most likely exhaust him while women have more oxitocin in thier bodies which makes her want to cuddle. Another common problem is that after sex, the male is usually very tired and the woman will want to cuddle. If a couple is on antidepressants it can cause even more problems, because there is an interference with the hormonal actions in the body.
Things people should know before they have sex.
Sex will not always be amazing. Good sex is simply not natural, so you need to expect the 'good enough sex'. To have that good enought sex, there are some guidelines that need to be followed. 1. Be generous with each other. Make an effort to please your spouse and make them happy and satisfied. It is another way of saying, I love you. 2. Don't cheat each other. By this I mean several things. Fidelity to your spouse is very important. It is also very important to have sex often enough to strengthen the relationship you have with your spouse, and your spouse alone. 3. Know your partner. Know the things they like, the ones they don't. Be familiar with the things both of you feel comfortable with and the things you don't. A common problem with people who view pornography is that it creates unrealistic expectations and it becomes more of a quick fix for oxitocin when stressed than anything else.
What are some common sex problems couples fight about?
Some have sex purely to procreate, some have sex to become closer with the person they love, others use it for purely recreational purposes. There are different stages in which the human organism is the most willing to have sexual realtions. Biologically speaking, males from the ages of 18-19 are more likely to be sexually active. As they get older their sexual desires begin to diminish. However, for women their sexual desires peak at the ages 30-35. This could be cause of some creative contention in the home. One of the common problems between young couples, is that men would always be in the mood and the woman may have a lot of stress that doesn't put her in the mood. This may lead the guy to think she doesn't want to be close to him and then the woman thinks he only keeps her around for sex. This problem, as common as it may be, could be solved if the couple is open with each other and feel comfortable having open conversations with each other.
During sex, each has a release of dopamine and guys have an excess release of serationin. Sertonon will most likely exhaust him while women have more oxitocin in thier bodies which makes her want to cuddle. Another common problem is that after sex, the male is usually very tired and the woman will want to cuddle. If a couple is on antidepressants it can cause even more problems, because there is an interference with the hormonal actions in the body.
Things people should know before they have sex.
Sex will not always be amazing. Good sex is simply not natural, so you need to expect the 'good enough sex'. To have that good enought sex, there are some guidelines that need to be followed. 1. Be generous with each other. Make an effort to please your spouse and make them happy and satisfied. It is another way of saying, I love you. 2. Don't cheat each other. By this I mean several things. Fidelity to your spouse is very important. It is also very important to have sex often enough to strengthen the relationship you have with your spouse, and your spouse alone. 3. Know your partner. Know the things they like, the ones they don't. Be familiar with the things both of you feel comfortable with and the things you don't. A common problem with people who view pornography is that it creates unrealistic expectations and it becomes more of a quick fix for oxitocin when stressed than anything else.
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